It just happens…

Something is going wrong...

The feeling of sadness, anger, why is this happening to us?

An emerging crisis... witch has been shown to cause a similar amount of stress impacted as in the case of the knowing that you have cancer

Grief has different phases, with shock, anger, sadness, maybe finally a resignation where everything feels meaningless

I work with couples, & also work with singles who who want to become parents

I collaborate with a male RTT therapist if both of you male and female wish to have your own

There is a void

what will happen next?

I don't want to talk to anyone...no one understands anyway....

not quite …

Because only you walk your own path. It is only afterwards that you may see it clearly.

but you can get help to make it easier.

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Try to create a healthy picture of what is going on. Find out the facts about what you can influence, food, health, and other medical aspects.
I discovered very late that I had several emotional obstacles to becoming a mother. It is usually not something that the school medicine / IVF clinics ask about.

Discovering and solving emotional obstacles is something that I can help you with. had several emotional obstacles to becoming a mother. It is usually not something that the school medicine / IVF clinics ask about.
Discovering and solving emotional obstacles is something that I can help you with.

Remember you are not a number…

Sometime the search for the answers becomes too intense...then it's time to save your energy and rest a little

Then there's that thing about sex

I know it can be difficult to ask the other and do things together when everything is still so strained.

The two of you are the foundation for the future family, and you need to find ways to replenish strength and closeness. How you achieve it can become a habit you can carry with you in the next phase, as what distracts the relationship is much more noticeable after the children have arrived. Make sure to make time for yourself and find a place for it.Be honest and tell your partner what is needed to find a way to "fill your cup"
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But how does it feel beeing the male partner ?

Very often the focus is on the woman because it is inside her that it happens. A man can often feel forgotten. The man has his issues that may need to be resolved. I collaborate with a male RTT I collaborate with a male RTT therapist if both of you male and female wish to have your own .

Now and then

Is it important to reset? Think about the next step together, a bit like jumping on an ice floe. Take one step at a time. Not too far ahead, but be present where you are... Regain hope .. to keep going

Let people help you

Let people help you

In this situation, we need safe souls, people we trust. Which can help us do things we can't do right now

You may create a network around both of you. If you don't have the right people around you, perhaps look for them in interest organizations.

For several years in the 2010s, I have been a board member of the national association for Involuntary Infertility ass, riksförbundet Ofrivillig Barnlösa.

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When you live in infertility , you have a lot of invisible emotions that bubble up...

Therefore, you can feel good about taking a little more distance than before to people and just taking care of yourself and each other.

A good way to get an overview of the whole can be to make a wheel of life.

Through this exercise, you can find subject areas that you want to change and improve towards more balance in your life. I can help you with the emotional parts.

For me, 3 children came on very different paths after 5 years of struggle

The last thing that leaves you, is hope... fragile as a bubble of soap.